Sunday, July 29, 2012

Meaningful Conversation: Body Dialogue


When we live from the heart, we can hear.
~ Jennifer McLean

Have you ever wondered what in the world it means when someone says to live from (or come from or be in) the heart? This week I had the wonderful opportunity to enjoy listening to an audio presentation by Jennifer McLean, of "Healing with the Masters." This particular segment featured what Jennifer calls body dialoguing. If you are already familiar with the Imagine Healing process, you will recognize the similarity and the benefits. (See http://www.ImagineHealing.info)

I was so excited because I had a client coming in to work on "presence" as she undergoes some physical challenges. I knew she would find this process insightful and enjoy the freedom that comes from simply being with a thought or a feeling or a sensation—having a meaningful conversation with your genuine self. 
 
Before I share the steps, ponder a quotation from Jennifer, "Everything that is here is something I requested for my evolution." 

When an individual is experiencing an upset, a health crisis, or even something as simple as a sensation, you can learn to be present with yourself in ways that will allow healing and transformation. I admit that I added the suggestion that you notice the color. Since everything in our world is made up of color, and we see color everywhere in our world, this is an important (and powerful) addition, and it is used in the Imagine Healing process.  

  1. Where do I feel this in my body? What does it look like? What does it feel like? Cold? Hot? Tense? Color? Shape?  
  2.  Say: I am present with you. I am listening. I am not going anywhere. Be present in a space of support.
  3.  Ask: How have you served me? What is the purpose of your being here?
  4.  Discover: What was the thought in your head just before the upset/accident? (This can be recognized as some sort of fear.) 
  5.   Ask: Who planted that fear? How old were you when you had the first thought life was not safe? 
  6.  Bring your attention to that former you at that age.  The current you is going to be the adult now (higher self). Let that little one purge the emotion as the adult you holds the space; nodding, rocking, stroking —being there in support. 
  7.  Now ask your body part and the little one (simultaneously): What do you need now? Jennifer says it will usually be a “god” quality. (Connirae Andreas identified these as core states in Core Transformations.) 
  8.   Ask: What would the full expression of this need look like and feel like right now? Feel it. Allow it. 
  9.  Ask: What would it feel like and look like six months from now as you are fully living this quality? Feel this and allow this.

As you appreciate these feelings, you might want to check in with the body part and test for more needs so you can repeat the process if other needs are expressed. It is so exciting that we are more and more choosing to free ourselves from painful perceptions. One of my favorite authors, Mark Nepo, writes that "the energy of the world floods through whatever moment we dare to enter fully."



Wonderfully, a few days after listening to the presentation and the same day I had been with the client I shared this body dialogue exercise with, I experienced some pain in my foot. It was in the middle of my left foot—and the painful sensation was very deep, not on the surface at all. It was between my toes and the ball of my foot, and it was excruciating. I found it challenging to walk but it was painful even when I was not moving.

I was grateful you can remember to breathe. I began to just notice the sensation and affirm that I was willing to be present with it. When you do that, you are able to resist making up anything about it. I began to hold the intention: I am present with you. I am listening. I am not going anywhere

Although I hobbled up and down the stairs several times, before I went to bed  the sensation had totally vanished. What a wonderful process to remember and use and appreciate. Imagine healing that easily!


Sunday, July 22, 2012

Detach


God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
~ Reinhold Niebuhr

This morning I was gifted with some wonderful time on the bluff, overlooking Lake Michigan, in downtown Saint Joseph, Michigan. The happy occasion was a reunion (of sorts) of our Interfaith Fellowship group. In various spaces and configurations that group has met since 1997. This gathering was co-created because one member who has been living in Florida for the past several years was in Saint Joseph visiting. 

We brought our chairs, delicious and nutritious snacks to share, and hearts open to being together as the ONE. I introduced the inspirational cards from Wellness for All, the organization Mary Jo Bulbrook has helped birth into our world. 

Detach was picked by two individuals, and the message of this one is probably deeply important for each of us now. 

Detach
There are dimensions that are holding you back from your true destiny. 
Learn to detach and release all that causes harm to your inner life 
and ability to find true peace. 
As you search and journey within, 
you will find that all aspects of life have only one true mission 
which is to pave the road to inner life of serenity that is within your control. 

That message is clearly essentially that of The Serenity Prayer, those powerful and utterly familiar words penned by Reinhold Niebuhr.

It may not come as any surprise to most of us that the wisdom to know the difference is key. We cannot change the Aurora tragedy (as much as we might like). We cannot roll back time and unburn the acres devastated by wild fires. We cannot wish back a loved one. No amount of denial will unhappen history, however, that "inner life of serenity" unfolds perfectly as I surrender my desire to fight against what is out there and to embrace what is truly within my own control. 

Our true nature is that delicate, silent, loving, inner state of peace. 



I saw this Queen Anne's Lace thriving, having come up between the cracks in a driveway. I love that Queen Anne's Lace (as it is called in the U.S.) is considered a beneficial weed, because—according to Wikipedia—it is able to "boost tomato plant production and provide a microclimate of cooler, more moist air for lettuce," just by growing nearby.

I am not sure if my fascination with weeds this summer is because the hot (unusually hot), dry (drastically dry), weather here has been so hard on annuals that the weeds are strikingly beautiful by contrast. I am more inclined to think it has something to do with my spiritual journey as I am coming to see the beauty of the weeds (unplanned, often wild, life-changing events) in my own life. 

The following was written in the loneliness upon my return home to Michigan in April, 1996, and by May I was enrolled in the Living Ministry Program of Reunion. A year later I had gone on to birth the Holistic Alliance. In 2005, we were letting go of that form. Once again I feel that tugging at the weeds of my life, as though I am soon again to give birth to heaven knows what gifts for our world. Enjoy ~ Debra

Where can I go to find peace?
          Where can I go that peace cannot find me?
                    Who is the searcher?
                              Who is the sought?
Peace is the natural state, trust and embrace a new thought.

The rhythm of peace is silence
          the words a language of naught
                    I lay down beside the still waters
                              My burden immediately scatters.
Here, I become the me that matters.

Where is peace for my world?
          my stars, my moon, my son?
                    Found simply waiting to be honored
                              For you, by be, my word...
A gift, freely given, in the silence to be heard.




Tuesday, July 10, 2012

Weeds


"But a weed is simply a plant that wants to grow
where people want something else.
In blaming nature, people mistake the culprit.  
Weeds are people's idea, not nature's."

~ Anonymous

I have been enjoying seeing all the "weeds" along the roads as I am out riding my bike or walking. I had an inspiration of what gift it might be if we were to all begin working with nature by planting only wildflowers. 


Just the idea of these beauties having been unwanted seems more than just a bit foolish. They are very hardy plants that seem to be thriving even with this summer's excessive heat and lack of rain.

This stream of thought about weeds soon led me to looking at other aspects of my life that might not automatically have been seen as gifts. If I am totally honest, the wild parts of my own nature have often been treated as weeds rather than treasured as wildflowers. 

I certainly did not see the inherent beauty in my having to leave school in the tenth grade because I was expecting a child. Many assumed weeds were growing in my soul when I left my church and began the journey to becoming an Ordained Interfaith Minister. Others assumed something was amiss as I became trained in Healing Touch™. 

In ways sometimes accessed only through the blessing of hindsight, it has been quite a sacred journey to realize that there is profound beauty in what grows wild. My ordination ceremony was July 12, 1997. It does not seem possible that it could really only have been fifteen years ago I became a Minister of Reunion. Today my heart welcomes the beauty of the wildness in the weeds of my own nature that led me to say, "Here I am, Lord.... I will hold your people in my heart."



 
I am still saying YES to the divine within all of life as I sing the words of my ordination song, Here I Am Lord. The music and the lyrics are by Dan Schutte. (Copyright 1981)

I, the Lord of sea and sky,
I have heard my people cry.
All who dwell in darkness now
My hand will save.


I who make the stars of night,
I will make their darkness bright.
Who will bear my light to them?
Whom shall I send?


Here I am, Lord. It is I Lord.
I have heard you calling in the night.
I will go, Lord, where you lead me.
I will hold your people in my heart.


I, the Lord of snow and rain,
I have borne my people’s pain.
I have wept for love of them.

They turn away.

I will break their hearts of stone,
Give them hearts for love alone.
I will speak my words to them.
Whom shall I send?

Here I am, Lord. It is I Lord.
I have heard you calling in the night.
I will go, Lord, where you lead me.
I will hold your people in my heart.


I, the Lord of wind and flame,
I will tend the poor and lame.
I will set a feast for them.
My hand will save.


Finest bread I will provide,
Till their hearts be satisfied.
I will give my life to them.
Whom shall I send?


Here I am, Lord. It is I Lord.
I have heard you calling in the night.
I will go, Lord, where you lead me.
I will hold your people in my heart.