Thursday, May 29, 2014

Graduation



This past week I had the honor of creating a photo board for our grandson, Adam, celebrating his graduation from high school. It had been a long day, and it was already late and I was tired, but soon I was energized walking down memory lane.

Awareness of every event as divine order was obvious as I saw with my own eyes infant growing into toddler, child developing into teen, and emerging as grown man. Photo after photo of Adam in the kitchen left me wondering just how much our destiny is revealing itself even at the tender age of two or four or ten.

When his older brother, Brad, saw the board, he smiled  a huge smile and said, "You packed it in!" That is true, and it was the perfect way to honor Adam.

Adam really began to find his place in the world when he started racing go-karts. His nickname was plowboy because he would run off the track. Imagine a kid who cannot even drive yet navigating around hair pin turns at 75 to 100 miles per hour. He was a great team member, helping the guys and benefiting from their experience. He won a championship! He flipped over and over going about 95 MPH on the Daytona track. He experienced the bitter and the sweet and learned from it all.

During his senior year, in addition to working part time at Publix while taking the culinary program at school, he has already been working as a volunteer fireman. He is a remarkable young man, that is for sure!

It was an incredibly busy week. Through it all, my heart kept thinking about how Adam's photo board is a symbol for all of us. 


We have moments we are exceedingly proud of. Some we are embarrassed by. Some we have long forgotten. Many of our moments of years gone by seem like just yesterday.

For each of us, our moments will come to an end. That has happened for Maya Angelou.

Here is one of her amazing poems that, in my heart, honors both of them.  

We, this people, on a small and lonely planet
Traveling through casual space
Past aloof stars, across the way of indifferent suns
To a destination where all signs tell us
It is possible and imperative that we learn
A brave and startling truth

And when we come to it
To the day of peacemaking
When we release our fingers
From fists of hostility
And allow the pure air to cool our palms

When we come to it
When the curtain falls on the minstrel show of hate
And faces sooted with scorn are scrubbed clean
When battlefields and coliseum
No longer rake our unique and particular sons and daughters
Up with the bruised and bloody grass
To lie in identical plots in foreign soil

When the rapacious storming of the churches
The screaming racket in the temples have ceased
When the pennants are waving gaily
When the banners of the world tremble
Stoutly in the good, clean breeze

When we come to it
When we let the rifles fall from our shoulders
And children dress their dolls in flags of truce
When land mines of death have been removed
And the aged can walk into evenings of peace
When religious ritual is not perfumed
By the incense of burning flesh
And childhood dreams are not kicked awake
By nightmares of abuse

When we come to it
Then we will confess that not the Pyramids
With their stones set in mysterious perfection
Nor the Gardens of Babylon
Hanging as eternal beauty
In our collective memory
Not the Grand Canyon
Kindled into delicious color
By Western sunsets

Nor the Danube, flowing its blue soul into Europe
Not the sacred peak of Mount Fuji
Stretching to the Rising Sun
Neither Father Amazon nor Mother Mississippi who, without favor,
Nurture all creatures in the depths and on the shores
These are not the only wonders of the world

When we come to it
We, this people, on this minuscule and kithless globe
Who reach daily for the bomb, the blade and the dagger
Yet who petition in the dark for tokens of peace
We, this people on this mote of matter
In whose mouths abide cankerous words
Which challenge our very existence
Yet out of those same mouths
Come songs of such exquisite sweetness
That the heart falters in its labor
And the body is quieted into awe

We, this people, on this small and drifting planet
Whose hands can strike with such abandon
That in a twinkling, life is sapped from the living
Yet those same hands can touch with such healing, irresistible tenderness
That the haughty neck is happy to bow
And the proud back is glad to bend
Out of such chaos, of such contradiction
We learn that we are neither devils nor divines

When we come to it
We, this people, on this wayward, floating body
Created on this earth, of this earth
Have the power to fashion for this earth
A climate where every man and every woman
Can live freely without sanctimonious piety
Without crippling fear

When we come to it
We must confess that we are the possible
We are the miraculous, the true wonder of this world
That is when, and only when
We come to it. 

Adam, savor your past, enjoy your present, and trust your future. 

You are the possible. 

You are the miraculous. 

You are the true wonder of this world.

Congratulations!

Monday, May 19, 2014

Contributions



This has been a tender spring with young ones in nature. One of the 2014 eaglets on Pine Island few for the first time on March 12, and—just 9 days later—was electrocuted flying into some wires.

Did you know, once paired, bald eagles (the only eagle unique to North America), stay with their mate for life. Only if one bird dies, will the other select another mate. 

During mating season, diligently selecting then carefully transporting sticks—some of which are up to a couple of feet long—both the male and female work to build the nest. The nest can span 8 feet and weigh as much as a ton!

A photo snip (photographer) of the surviving eagle on this year's nest....
Stories of eagles swooping down and snatching a fish right out of the hands of a fisherman are not just legend on Pine Island, they are fact. They really love the slender lady fish… 

One day, a dear friend who regularly visits the nest, was frightened for the surviving chick as an osprey was threatening an attack. Whooosh! Fortunately, the eagle parent had been hiding out of sight and was right there to intervene, giving a violent chasing to the would-be-intruder.

Today, my daughter shared that she found eggs from a nest on her porch overhang on the ground. She says she felt "sad" as she saw bitty birdie bodies in the now-cracked eggs. She knows first-hand how dedicated this momma bird was because she had tried (unsuccessfully) to encourage her to build elsewhere. 

All of these birdie tales keep tugging at our "momma" heart strings. This is true for men as well as women. We know creatures in nature grieve. Newspapers and websites share reports of one species adopting a baby of another species to fill the void as big as the state of Texas where a mother's love would be. 

Are you wondering what it is that keeps our winged sisters and brothers building those nests? Join me as I reflect on divine love as a choice-less-ness, hard-wired into our being. 

My good friend Wayne used to have a handyman service. (See previous post.) Everyone loves Wayne, and he could fix just about anything. Some memory challenges leave him finding new ways of being in the world. On his walk, he now carries a pointed stick and picks up loose paper along the way. Wayne has begun sending encouraging cards to people he cares about. A mutual friend suggested he adopt James Taylor's "Handy Man" as his new motto: "Here is the main thing I want to say, I'm busy twenty four hours a day. I fix broken hearts, I'm your handy man."

Wayne, and mother eagles, and you and I. We all instinctively want to make a contribution to our world. Some build nests. Some pick up trash. Some smile at strangers. Some see clients. Some build websites. Some sing in the choir. What gifts we all have to share!

Sunday, May 4, 2014

Hidden Blessings



The phone rang. I heard the voice of Claudia, a good friend. "I am at the ER with Wayne. He cut his wrist badly with the table saw. He is probably going to need surgery." 

"I will send out a request for prayer support to the list right now. Keep me posted." 

Wayne—her husband—is also a good friend. Although I had laundry in, food on the stove, and was still in sweats, I soon felt the draw to go offer what support I could. I turned down the stove, quickly slipped into street clothes, brushed my teeth, washed my face, and headed out the door. 

A brief call on my way found them still in ER, but waiting transport to Kalamazoo. Claudia rode in the ambulance with Wayne, and I drove her car. 

Your sense of giving support is intimately linked with support you have previously received. In 2011, when I found myself on a wild ride to surgery and then an even wilder ride to cardiac intensive care (post surgical complication), I was on the receiving end. Claudia sat with me in the hospital restroom, willing my intestines to wake up. She spent the night with me. She shared her skills of reflexology and aromatherapy. 

Neither Wayne nor Claudia are strangers to pain. A couple of years ago he was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease. 

Wayne still faces surgery, but that night he was released from ER—dressed in paper scrubs and nonskid socks. I drove them home, and it was my turn to stay the night. We had not anticipated the experiences we would share that day, but hidden blessings are tucked into the actions of giving and receiving love and support.

The shop where Wayne's injury occurred needed to be cleaned up. The estimate (all blood has to be treated as a biohazard) was $600. Wayne's long-time close friend, Bob, and I decided to give it a try. Bob went to buy supplies while I organized the necessary tools. 

On hands and knees, the work was an act of prayer. 

We spoke of our gratitude Wayne is alive. 

Sharing times of personal pain in our pasts, acknowledging the miracle of friends who are able to really be there for one another

Pouring the peroxide out of the bottles became sacred ritual. Wiping up the blood of our dear friend took on profound meaning for both of us. 

"I have helped bring babies into the world, and held people as they were dying. I feel that same intimacy with you now. I am honored to perform this act of care and I cannot imagine having been able to do this with anyone else…" 

Truth needs to be spoken. Life is too fragile to meet it with anything less than honesty. 

When the last of the "biohazard" had been safely disposed of, I ceremoniously slipped out of my latex gloves to snap this selfie with Bob, just one of the many hidden blessings…